I wrote this blog after my last break-up but seeing how relationships are always ending I'm reposting for others: Wow. That sounds negative. Relationships are always beginning too. So there.
The weather is still 72 and sunny but break-up season in in full force in Southern California right now. Unfortunately I only know of one couple still going strong. And the best of luck to them! There should be at least two survivors of such an uncanny season. To help the rest of us I have put together a sort of guide in overcoming the initial hurt that is disappointment and the looming prospect of starting all over again. Oh yes, and sometimes missing the other member of the doomed union. So here are a few tips....
1. Listen to as much break-up music as you can possibly handle. It feels much better knowing all the tortured musicians have been through exactly the same thing as you. (Stay away from Kurt Cobain) The music can depend on the situation of course. Right now I am loving Celebration's "The Modern Tribe", Rilo Kiley "Under the Blacklight" and Janis Joplin, the Queen of Heartbreak.
2. For most situations I strongly recommend deleting the ex's number. You can always get it again once the first hurt wears off. But this will save you from the embarrassing texts you sent them last night while out drowning your sorrows with your friends. It is never EVER a good idea to drunk text. Unless you're drunk sexting your cute rebound.
3. Date as many people right out of the gate as possible. You don't have to think long-term here. You just need to go out and meet new people and flirt. Its a great distraction and reminds you that yes, you are a commodity. For those that like rebounds now is the time. Capitalize!
4. Go out with your friends and get plastered at least once while it still hurts nice and good. It feels good to forget. Plus you can work on flirting. If you're a girl. Guys love drunk girls. If you're a dude then don't flirt this night. Girls hate drunk dudes.
The next day you'll feel so awful that you won't drink for a while longer and you can reflect on your feelings. Your feelings. Not theirs. You don't know what they're feeling so don't kill yourself wondering and over-analyzing. If you must then you're a prime candidate for deleting their number.
I suppose I only have 4 rules... I'm forgetting one. Just remember "Its only supposed to work out with one person." *Thanks Leah.
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