Is It Ever OK to read your Partner's E-Mails?

The answer is "No!"

This question seems to come up quite often in my circle of friends. Surprisingly, most of my friends are level-headed and grounded. However, when it comes to insecurity in a relationship boundaries become blurry and invasions of privacy seem acceptable. They never are.

E-mails, text messages and diaries all fall under the same category as off-limits to me. You know that reading someone's diary is unacceptable and yet question if text messages or e-mails are. Everyone needs an outlet to express thoughts, fears, emotions and desires. Sometimes these expressions come out in the form of texts or e-mails to good friends, old friends, and yes, sometimes people your significant other should be staying away from. Regardless, written messages are often miscontrued and reading them is an invasion of privacy.

To this argument, many a friend has argued, but look what I found! I wouldn't have known _(fact)______ if I hadn't read __(partner's)_____ e-mail. This is absolutely untrue. 1. You are already mistrusting _(partner)___ and therefor are going through their personal correspondence. And 2. It would have come out in the open eventually.

If you are lacking trust in your relationship you need to take a deep breath, get up your courage, and confront the other person in an adult manner. Just because you think you may have found something doesn't mean you necessarily did, but it will announce to your partner that you are a sneak who doesn't trust them. Before you go digging around for dirt ask yourself what the root of your fear is and what you suspect. Then talk about it. If you still suspect your partner of lying then it's best to break up. You deserve someone you trust and who respects you. Someone you know will never cheat on you.

How I got Poison Ivy, or How I Told My Parents I am Sexually Active:

First of all I'll set some things straight. I am a 29-year-old female living with my fiance. I'm sure my parents had an inkling that we might be fornicating but as they are a bit old-fashioned it's never something that has been discussed. And still, technically, has gone unspoken...
A few weeks ago my live-in paramour came in contact with poison ivy while running along the lake. The rash quickly showed itself around his waist and spread to his thighs.
Being the kind, caring and domestic lover I've read that I'm supposed to emulate, I tended to his wounds buying him creams and potions and cooing the occasional, "Poor Baby." I, myself, have never contracted this poisonous rash and had therefor deemed myself immune. Flash forward a couple of weeks:
I thought that by mere coincidence I had come down with some other sort of rash. The rash started on my left hand and then showed up mid-inside-thigh and eventually under my chin. The rash did not look like poison ivy; sure it was itchy and bumpy but it looked nothing like my bedside partner's. So, I decided to see if my all-knowing parents knew what it could be. They did.
Apparently poison ivy can be spread through human contact. Each time the disease is passed along it gets diluted. That explains why my case did not look similar to my boy's.
Unfortunately for me I had mentioned where his rash was, on his waist and thighs. Fortunately for me, my parents didn't ask me how I came to have the rash on my inner thighs and chin. I'm just hoping they either don't have vivid imaginations or have forgotten how to make the zexy time...